Unintentional Natural Childbirth

By Sarah Fader

On Saturday morning, I knew I’d had enough. I’d been having contractions all week long that led to nowhere. I’d been in constant pain, and sometimes for 6-8 hours at a time. So I called my midwife. I told her I couldn’t do it anymore. She said she totally understood, and that she fully supported my decision. I decided to schedule a labor induction with my old OB, the one that delivered Ari.

I emailed my OB and told her the situation. She emailed me right back and told me to come to the hospital that day and they would induce me.

I got to the hospital and, as it turned out, I was having contractions that were 5-7 minutes apart for 35 seconds long. But the nurses determined they were due to dehydration, not labor. So they tried to send me home.

“Please, please don’t send me home!” I begged them. “I can’t take it anymore. Please can you induce my labor? I’m miserable. I can’t care for my son properly. I can’t sleep. Please.”
“Sorry, but you’re 38 weeks and 4 days, we can’t induce you until you’re 39 weeks. There are women with four children in your situation,” the nurse said “they just have to deal with it.”
So I scheduled an induction for Tuesday 1/25/11, when I would be exactly 39 weeks.

I got home and tried to go on with the day. But the contractions got worse. I called my OB.
“When the contractions start to get stronger and/or longer call me.” She said confidently.
I sat in my parents apartment with my parents and Wil obsessively timing my contractions.

“Okay, they’re really bad.” I said. “I wanna go to the hospital.”
“No, there’s only 30 seconds,” Wil said. “Let’s wait another hour.
“NO NO NO NO! You don’t understand I need to go to the hospital.” I started to cry.
“Sarah, calm down,” said my dad furthering the testosterone festival in the living room. “You heard what the doctor said, wait until the contractions are longer!”
All at once two grown men tried to physically restrain me like I was a mental patient.
I screamed. I sat down. My water broke.
“My water just broke.” I said, in shock.
“That’s her water! I see it!” Wil shouted.
Wil rushed to throw things in a bag so we could get to the hospital.

Meanwhile, the contractions were unbearable. I was screaming at the top of my lungs.
We got in the car and Wil ran every red light from Brooklyn to Manhattan until we got to the hospital.

Whenever I had a contraction in the car I screamed:
“I CAN DO THIS!!!!!” Over and over again. Because I needed to tell myself that or I thought I might die.

We got to the hospital, got out of the car (while it was double parked) and all of a sudden I had to pee.
“PEE BABE! LET IT OUT!” Wil yelled reassuringly
So I peed all over the side walk and my snow boots.
There was no parking anywhere. It was the Upper East Side of Manhattan.
Wil begged a nurse who was going into the building to take me upstairs while he quickly parked in a parking lot.

I screamed and yelled my way into a wheelchair.
“I’m sorry,” I cried and apologized to the nurse who reassured me it was okay and got us into elevator at warp speed.

We got up to Labor and Delivery and I managed to scream my way into a delivery room. The same nurses and doctor who saw me that morning were there, eye popping out of their heads.

“We can’t. You’re really dehydrated ma’am. You have to go through this bag of fluids before we can give you the epidural.” One nurse told me.
I cried and screamed. My friend and doula Livvy was there, thank goodness. She massaged my back and held my legs down.
“I HAVE TO PEE!!” I screamed.
“Not in the bed you don’t!” Shouted the nurse.
“I’M INCONTINENT!!” I shouted back.
“Oh okay.” She replied not knowing quite what to say.
I peed again.

They checked me.
“SHE’S 4-5.” They meant centimeters dilated.
Wil still wasn’t there. He was down registering me in the hospital office.
I screamed. I screamed some more. 10 minutes later…
“No, dizziness is a side effect of the epidural. Wait until you feel better.” They retorted.
“I’m gonna vomit.” I said.
“Lower the bed!” The nurses shouted. They did.
I rolled on my side.
All of a sudden, I had a sudden surging unbearable pain and I said
They checked me.
“SHE’S 9!!” I was nine centimeters dilated.
No response
“WAIT WAIT!! HOLD IT DON’T PUSH!” Said the nurses.
“I CAN’T!!!!!!” I screamed and in one push the baby’s head was out. All at once the nurses and the resident doctor rushed around me. I couldn’t be sure, but it looked as if the resident might faint.
“I CAN’T!” I kept pushing through the contraction and the baby fell out of me. They removed the cord from the baby’s neck and she cried. They wrapped her up. I held her.
“I’m AWESOME!!” I screamed. “I did it!!!!”
Wil still wasn’t there. According to him, he got to the L&D floor (with my best friend Mint) and a doctor said to him:

All of a sudden Wil and Mint rushed into the room. They both had confused faces on as they saw me holding a new baby.
Wil cried. We held her.
We named her Samara.

Sarah Fader records anecdotes from her daily life at at Old School New School Mom. She also currently runs blog workshops for elementary school children in New York City and provides freelance transcription services for major television networks, in between running after a two year old.

20 Responses to Unintentional Natural Childbirth
  1. Stephanie
    January 24, 2011 | 11:38 pm

    Oh, CONGRATS! I’m so excited for you and I LOVE HER NAME.


  2. edj
    January 24, 2011 | 11:39 pm

    WOW! Congrats πŸ™‚ I was on the edge of my seat! πŸ™‚ She’s gorgeous and you’re a star!

  3. Anitra
    January 24, 2011 | 11:57 pm

    Congratulations! I’m so happy for you that this phase is over!

    I had unintentional natural childbirth with my first baby… which is part of why, once I was overdue with #2, I decided to schedule an induction rather than continue to wait. My body just needed the extra little push to get my contractions to be regular and productive.

    I can now honestly say that an epidural is kind of unpleasant, but infinitely better than the alternative.

  4. Melissa
    January 25, 2011 | 7:08 am


    That’s almost how it happened to me with my daughter – I got to the hospital and it happened so quickly that they couldn’t give me an epidural and my husband almost had to catch.

  5. Martha C
    January 25, 2011 | 11:17 am

    Congrats!!! I have been there. It is scary but so great when it is over.

  6. Christie
    January 25, 2011 | 11:42 am

    Congratulations Sarah and welcome Samara! What a roller coaster! Second babies can come really fast, can’t they? My second arrived after less than an hour at the hospital and my requests for pain relief went unanswered as well. The pace was kind of terrifying actually, but being able to hold and love that wee, sweet little creature afterward was so worth it!

    Very best wishes to you and Samara!

  7. Kara
    January 25, 2011 | 11:58 am

    Congratulations and way to go!!! Totally know how it is with those quick unplanned natural births lol, I had my twins 2 weeks ago and was already 10cm when I got to the hospital. If anything is harder than pushing out one baby unmedicated, it’s pushing out two haha. πŸ™‚

  8. Sarah R.
    January 26, 2011 | 2:43 pm

    Congratulations! Your picture and the baby are gorgeous, and I love the name you picked.

  9. Kim
    January 28, 2011 | 3:03 am

    While reading your article I felt that I was in the delivery room and felt the happiness after giving birth of a wonderful little angel… Congratulations!

  10. kristin
    February 21, 2011 | 11:51 pm

    That was beautiful!!

  11. nicole
    May 3, 2011 | 8:53 pm

    Amazing woman. I also had an unintentional natural birth. It was crazy. When I was at the same hospital 11.5 months later having a c-section the nurses remembered me!

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