The Trade-Off of Being a Stay-At-Home Mom

By Kelly

So I heard another Batman movie just hit the theaters.

Anyone know anything about it?

I’m kidding, of course. “Dark Knight” set a new record its opening weekend, raking in an astounding $158.3 million. To compare: The number two movie for last weekend, the chick-flick “Mama Mia,” only managed to pull in $27.6 million. And according to one poll, more than 60% of the people who saw “Dark Knight” last weekend plan to see it at again in the theaters.

This astounds me for several reasons.

First, I can’t remember the last movie I saw in the theater. Truly. Can’t remember. Maybe “Ratatouille”?

Second, if my sources are correct, it costs approximately half my monthly mortgage payment to see a movie in the theaters these days. And that doesn’t include popcorn, which is more than half the fun. Yet people are spending that kind of money to see a movie, not once, but twice? Wow.

Third … “Dark Knight” is out already?!? How did I miss this? I consider myself to be a bit of a sci-fi geek. But my first clue that the next Batman had hit the big screen came when I read this fascinating blog critique on Monday.

I am officially out of touch.

A few years ago, before kids, I worked in the news business. I knew something about everything – and I thrived on it. I knew the basic facts of every regional and national news story to hit the wires. (In fact, I discontinued my “Newsweek” subscription because it felt like old news.) I knew gossip about the Presidential candidates. I knew the latest foibles of the movie stars. (Living close to Los Angeles made that easy.) I knew what foods you should avoid if you have breast cancer, which police union charity call was a scam, how to keep your child safe in the bathtub with six easy steps and which salmonella-tainted food had been recalled that week.

But now? I’m a stay-at-home Mom. And while I’m still a bit of a news junkie, I no longer follow every story the way I used to. I’ve fallen off the radar.

My pre-child self would be aghast. “Have you no brain cells, woman?” she would berate. “How do you expect to participate in intelligent and witty repartee if you don’t know something about everything? How will you impress the crowd with your keen insight into What’s Happening In The World? Have you become the very thing you despise? Have you no self-respect? Have you no pride?”

Well, no. I have self-respect and pride. I just have no time.

Besides, my crowd — all three of them, ages 6, 4 and 6 months — probably wouldn’t care if I espoused my opinion on “Dark Knight” being a symbol of the emptiness of our culture. (Or a shining example of the depravity of man. Take your pick. I haven’t seen it, so I have no basis to enter the fray.)

But really — and here’s where it gets even more freaky — I don’t even care anymore that I’m not in the know about everything.

These days, my life is filled with everyday holiness. I do a puzzle with Connor. I play restaurant with Natalie. I change the baby’s diaper and kiss her belly and make her smile. I make dinner and savor the smell of garlic and onion in olive oil. I bake cookies and eat them fresh out of the oven with a huge glass of milk.

I feel like my eyes are opening to wonder, to simplicity, to the beauty in the small.

And if I do my job right, I have little time or energy left over to keep up with the 24/7 pace of the rest of the world.

It’s a trade-off. But it’s one I’m willing to make.

So, world, you can have your “Dark Knight.” I have my bright morning — and it’s usually spent eating Cheerios with an crowd of three who cares more about whether I’m actually listening to their silly knock-knock jokes than whether I think Heath Ledger will win a posthumous Oscar.

And I’m more content with that than I ever thought I’d be.

Kelly also blogs at Love Well, which means she probably stayed up too late last night writing. But oh well.